Marriage Lvl.4 Complete

 

26th October 2023 - Washington Wetlands

Tomorrow, the 31st of October, marks 4 years married and 5 years together. It's difficult to remember life without this incredible man in it and 5 years feels like nothing at the same time. 
The past year in particular, with many different health issues and diagnoses for myself, has only made me appreciate and look at Mr H in awe even more. I don't want these posts to be broken records of ' I love my husband so much, he is so amazing' (because why are you married if you don't adore your other half) but I think it's important to document exactly how lucky I am.
Personally, I think that our relationship is only getting better as time goes by and I often wonder what I've done to deserve someone who treats me the way he does...it makes me suspicious of what is actually wrong with him haha. In honesty, he does far too much for me and I often feel useless and that I barely contribute to our family because he doesn't just work hard at his day job but he also cares for me and does lots at home too. I didn't expect to be 33 and struggling to do daily self-care tasks like washing and dressing but to have a husband who takes it all in his stride on top of taking on my Autistic meltdowns etc is more than a godsend.

It's been a great year for us, with many fantastic adventures that we are so privileged to have been able to experience including staying at Bagend, joining WWT as members, volunteering for the Ringed Plover breeding project, taking Baker camping again, getting matching tattoos and going on our very belated Honeymoon! Some of which can be seen in our monthly couples portraits below.

1st November 2022 - Bagend, Craighead Howf


29th December 2022 -St Paul's Monastery, Jarrow

24th January 2023 - Primrose Nature Reserve, Jarrow

14th February 2023 - Jackie's Beach, Whitburn

22nd March 2023 - Washington Wetlands Centre

26th April 2023 - Our Front Garden, Home

24th May 2023 - Jackie's Beach, Whitburn

20th & 21st June 2023 - Portpatrick & Port Logan, Stranraer

19th July 2023 - Washington Wetlands Centre

20th August 2023 - Jackie's Beach, Whitburn

28th September 2023 - Washington Wetlands Centre

11th October 2023 - Disneyland Paris 

We've had other cool days out walking, visiting museums and quality time at home doing jigsaws and playing games, however, I want to be more intentional with those types of days in the year ahead. We do spend more time than we'd like aimlessly watching shows and when about a third of life is wasted asleep - and we're over a third into our lives already - I don't want to regret how we've spent our time in the future. 

Things that we do in our marriage that I love and recommend are:

- Only 1 TV in the house, located in the living room.

- No phones in the bedroom at night (we take one up with us on aeroplane/silent mode for emergencies)

- We go to bed at the same time and sit and read until sleep time.

- Always kiss and tell each other 'I love you' at each hello, goodbye and goodnight.

- Share our interests and enjoy them together.

I am aware that I'm very lucky to have found someone so like me. We have all of the same morals, ethics, beliefs and political opinions. Many of our interests are completely shared from nature to the fandoms we like. And overall we just really like spending time with each other. 

Here's to another awesome year of life as The Hallows.



Check out our previous anniversary blog posts below -
Marriage Lvl.1 Complete
Marriage Lvl.2 Complete
Marriage Lvl.3 Complete